July 7th, '18
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yourselves one to another in the fear of God" (Ephesians 5:21)
The marriage model in Ephesians five begins
with Paul's command to "be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess, but be
filled with the Spirit". In that, there appears two choices, go get plastered
or else submit to the Holy Spirit. Either shape up or ship out, submit or quit.
Of course getting plastered only complicates things, because the guy that
claimed to get drunk because of "her", when he came home with inebriated eyes,
ended up seeing two of her. The better "home" remedy is to reach for the Bible,
not the bottle.
The first remedy is to ADMIT. Confession does
the soul good. Yet like Adam we hide behind the trees of the garden or cover
our nakedness with leaves. But transparency is the father of trust. Mature
mates can handle the truth. Adam and Eve were naked and not ashamed (Genesis
2:25). Admit your feelings, your failures, your fatigue, your frustrations,
even fixations. And then be ready to REMIT. "Whosesoever sins you remit, they
are remitted to them..." (John 20:23) As Ruth Bell Graham has stated, "Marriage
is a union of two forgivers". Our debts are forgiven "as we forgive our
debtors". Remitting them means letting them go. True love never keeps a diary
of wrongs done. Then follows the word COMMIT, because the foundation for trust
is covenanting together. Ladies want a commitment. Guys flee from the word
knowing it will cost them valuable freedoms. And it does. Any commitment is
going to cost something, whether committing to coach little league or
committing to ring a bell for the Salvation Army at Wal-Mart's front door. It
costs time, energy (and money honey). For two to become one flesh, someone's
flesh has to die. I expected it to be hers, but God demands that it be mine.
Actually, He puts the same demand on both partners.
But all is not lost, for another great "home"
remedy is to PERMIT. Love isn't harsh or selfish. If he likes Monday Night
Football then permit it. You can go to the Target sale tomorrow or else go with
some friends. It's not a choice between football and love. Ishmael and Isaac survived
under the same roof until Ishmael started fussing about everything. Permit
differentness, uniqueness. Better yet, celebrate it. It's amazing how people so
opposed to human cloning try to make clones of each other at home or in the
church. Then the last word would be SUBMIT, which is a stumbling block to many.
It doesn't have to be. Before Paul says, "Wives, submit to your own husbands",
he first says we are to submit "one to another in the fear of God". It's a
mutual relinquishing of control. Those who "give and take" are the most likely
to enjoy life's giving and taking. The flesh hates to submit because of the
"sub" prefix. That means to voluntarily position your self beneath. But that's
the beauty of the upside-down kingdom. To be exalted we humble ourselves, to be
first we position ourselves last, to find our life we lose our life. The good
thing about "home" remedies, they cost less than store-bought prescriptions and
with a spoonful of sugar, the medicine almost always does the job!