July 4th, '18
All rights reserved © message by Kris Jackson
be subject - be submissive and adapt yourselves - to your own husbands as [a
service] to the Lord" (Ephesians 5:22 AMP)
Adaptability is the "ability to adapt". Genius
definition, huh? We could call it, then, "adapt" ability. Humans have amazing
power to adapt. Bostonians may harp about the heat in Phoenix, or a Floridian
the cold of North Dakota, but move either to their new climate and, after a few
months they will fit their surroundings. We adapt to the boss's ways at work.
In times of surplus or in want, we get along. That's what Paul meant about
learning to be content in whatever situation he was in (Philippians 4:11). And
that's what the Bible demands of us in marriage. Eve was created as a "help
meet" or help-mate for Adam. The Amplified Bible translates that as "a helper
meet (suitable, adapted, completing) for him" (Genesis 2:18 AMP). The key idea
then in both the Genesis and Ephesians accounts is "adapt" ability.
Some wives feel like they have to adopt their
husbands, not adapt to them. He just becomes another one of the kids, excess
baggage, the big child that eats the bigger helping, and has the most dirty
clothes. But mothering him is not honoring him. Another mistake besides
mothering him is smothering him. Each partner needs his or her space. You've
heard of myspace.com? How 'bout myspace.get lost! Years ago families adapted to
a one-room house. Thank God we have niches today where people can go to
breathe, but "one flesh" means that we need to enjoy each other, and that
requires being in the same room. Wives, you can adapt to his ways without
adopting them. It's in understanding the uniqueness of the sexes. John Gray
sees us as separate planets - "Women are from Venus; men are from Mars". There
have always been sparring matches between the two. Lady Astor screamed at
Churchill, "If I were your wife I would poison your coffee", to which Sir
Winston retorted, "If I were your husband I would drink it!" Then there was the
man who asked the Barnes & Noble clerk where he could find the book "Man:
the Superior Sex". She pointed, "Upstairs in the science fiction section".
"Adapt" ability is patient with the differences and obedient to change.
The command to submit can never really be
achieved without aid of the Holy Spirit. Before mentioning a word about
submission and adaptation Paul commanded his readers to "be filled with the
Spirit" (Ephesians 5:18). Then he added that we submit and adapt "as to the
Lord", or as the Amplified states, "[as a service] to the Lord". Sometimes your
mate will be worthy of your hard work; more often probably not. But when you do
what you do "as to the Lord" then it becomes worship rather than unappreciated
work. And be sure that nothing that we do for Him goes unnoticed or unpaid.
Viktor Frankl adapted to the Auschwitz concentration camp. He would wish that
experience on no one but his story proves that a person can see God and have
joy in any circumstance of life. You are probably not locked behind razor wire
like he was, ma'am, so please fight the urge to complain. "But let patience
have her perfect work, that you may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing"
(James 1:4). And while you are yielding to a man that seems unyielding,
remember that God has a pry bar big enough to loosen any kind of stubbornness.
Venus will never be Mars, but the two can lighten the dark backdrop and dance
together just above the horizon, and as was mentioned back in the creation,
"lo, it was very good". Depending on your "adapt" ability life can be "very