Wednesday, June 6th,
All rights reserved © message by Kris Jackson
I TOLD YOU SO!
after long abstinence...Paul...said, "Men, you should have listened to me, and not
have sailed from Crete..." (Acts 28:21)
Paul's advice was snubbed. No more than a
prisoner in transport he had the audacity to give the captain guidance; "Men, I
perceive this voyage will end with disaster..." (vs 10) But the "centurion was
more persuaded by the helmsman and the owner of the ship than by the things
spoken by Paul" (vs 11). The helmsman had his pride to protect. The ship owner
had his profits. "Who does this prisoner think he is?" But the storm came. And
the ship eventually sank. Paul was right. Everyone else was wrong. See, I
told you so!
Sometimes the dimwits that won't listen need to
be put in their place. I think Paul was legitimate in what he said, "Men, you
should have listened to me..." However, though gloating may be justified in some
cases, it is seldom the preferred course in relationships (since we're
talking about ships). Normally the better action is to simply leave the
outcome in the hands of God. "Therefore let those that suffer according to the
will of God commit the keeping of their souls to him in well doing..." (1 Peter
4:19) Credits are due but need not be demanded. When you're right the other
party will know you're right, unless they are willfully blind, and who needs
approval from those people anyway?
When you're wrong be grateful (because
God forgives), and when you're right be graceful (because God still
forgives). Ogden Nash offered, "To keep your marriage brimming with love in
your loving cup, whenever you're wrong admit it, and whenever you're right shut
up!" I know your tongue gets sore continually having to bite it so often but a
sore tongue is better than someone else's broken spirit. The "see, I told
you so" temptation comes about every day but it's best to seal your lip
"Is too", "Is not", "Did too", "Did not"; I
was in one of those tog-o-war discourses over the phone recently absolutely
certain of my position. The dis-course got a bit dissy. After
checking my facts, guess what (this is so hard to believe), I was the
numbskull. See, I told you so! But the caller on the other end chose
politeness over rightness and said, "You're right" and left me with no defense.
I had to respond with, "No, you're right". Next we were battling over humility.
It turned out rather humorous. Tennis is supposed to be recreational, not
confrontational. Life is a volley of ideas, feelings, slants and personal
preferences. There will be times when you have "the word" on something and
everyone else in the boardroom will buck your "wisdom". Later, when the storm
hits and the boat sinks, you may need to say, "Men, you should have listened to
me..." But it might be that an unobtrusive smile will work just as well. Be
grateful and graceful. God is the vindicator, the justifier, the evener of the
score. There is pleasure enough in just knowing yourself that you were right. Ping!
Chalk up another one. There is joy in knowing your security is in God, needing
no other source. "After long abstinence", Paul took over the captain's chair.
Hold your tongue for the moment and God will give you the microphone at long
last. See, I told you so!